Grave Bads

Deciding what to include in my grave is difficult, especially since I personally don't plan on being buried.  Who am I to take up perfectly good green space with my decaying corpse?  In the spirit of the course however, I suppose some contemplation is in order, especially to try and understand how or why certain object appear in graves.  But how does a thing represent who a person is?  For me, I would want to be remembered for what I had done in my life.  And no matter what those things are, everything would go back to my family and what they have achieved in their life.  And I am certainly not elite enough to have them buried with me...